Short post, but this is dedicated to people I know.
Could be friends, former colleagues, strangers that gave me the smoke etc...... and to everyone else.
Don't you all want to be less "covered up" of "our flaws" in "others" eyes. Don't you want people to have innocent eyes? When will we get to the point, yes - you are XYZ..... if you are happy, I will love you the same. If you aren't, and want to talk about it, I will be here. Support is not forced upon, support comes from within and a lot of the time, it is the one we see that "needs support", they actually know what the solution should be, but the world made it impossible for them to have a voice. So they hide, and then all of a sudden, they "needed further support".
Next time, quit smoke! Go to the XXXXX. (All so directive).
Really, how about - It seems to me that you are looking for information of quitting smoke, would you like to quit? (Target to THEIR needs / wants, not YOURS).
Otherwise, it is not a support from the heart. At the very least, I would feel offended if someone suggests that they know better of my life, and start telling me how I should be in life. If it was indeed genuine, the receiver end should at least feel less cold / annoyed yeah? Or did I get the feeling wrong? Or did you intend to make me feel cold? If there are other reasons, please let me know... Being real to me, is for you to be real to me too.
PS: If I can't be happy with myself, the way I do things, be able to do it as I like it. If that is due to external input, environment etc, what example does it set for the future? I remember someone said to me living the moment, indeed, but can we forget the future altogether? I doubt it. Being mindful, doesn't mean worrying too much. It is still a delicate process. If my way of doing things are "troublesome" to you, ask why. I couldn't imagine a world where everyone's needs / wants would be the same or similar. Be real, be kind, and happiness counts.
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