Have you ever thought of doing too much, worried too much, and ended up feeling a bit unnatural? It is like reading too much into the conversation, which I think it doesn't need to. But somehow, got conditioned into it. Is it through experiences, events, or whatever it may be. But one thing I do know, when it is natural, it doesn't stresses me out. Like when the stars aligns, it is that time, out of random but somehow getting noticed naturally. Do we need extra reminders? I can't comment for others, but I don't think it was designed for me. There is a big difference in terms of reminder that expects something or just a piece of note, reminding with no expectations. One I feel is more sincere than the other in the social context.
Some may challenge that oh but we get more earlier with reminders.... Just like Christmas, do you need a reminder? If so, what day? How long? Is it the same for everyone? If you get a reminder to prepare the Christmas Ball in March by your boss, I think a lot of PA, will say, thanks but leave it to me and I'll do it at my time accordingly. Would the extra time help? Not necessary, even if you can secured a venue early (perceived value), requirements may change down the track, department movements / funding / budget everything and ended up wasting time. See something natural vs unnatural (above request) can make a big difference. So is there an example for being natural? Sure, a very simple email / message from your boss, saying he/she enjoyed the last Christmas party very well, and appreciated with it and is hoping you could help organising it again this year. That's the entire message, a genuine message, no extra expectations beyond of what you do everyday anyway.
PS: For someone like me, I may even question the motive if my boss ever sent me a reminder for Christmas Ball in March etc. I wish I am not broken like this, but I am. I am really struggling with undisclosed expectations and does it have to drag me down to my own grave before things can get better? Say things like you mean it. If you can't, can I know the reason? If I can't, the best I can do (from my own capacity) is not to feel it, to be numb, to not be.
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