Sex? Don't want or Can't?

Found this interesting article online - while I am not disputing what those experts are saying, I think it is worth calling out a few points, especially when news / communications are being looked at under the microscope.

Sex is an interesting topic - not sure why it became a taboo to start with. But since this is my blog, I get to choose what to write and I will try not to be too opinionated.

The news itself talks about the benefits of sex and covered the other side too. However, I think what it is missing, may well be the reasons of "not having sex".

If I was to expand on this, there can be many reasons, leading to no sex. And each reason, can be very different and may or may not be contributing to negative health impact.

E.g. A person who is able to have sex, wanting to have sex, have someone who can have sex with, but unable due to living arrangement, financial, social reasons.... I would assume the frustration itself, can manifest into something else.

I assume this can be very different to someone choose not to have sex, and that's something equally should be respected. At the end of the day, it is up to the individual to choose.

In my lifetime, I also don't like to see people being forced upon, but I also wanting to call out the line seems to be very blurred. It seems nowadays there could be somewhere borderline of sudden change of mind during, and that is OK, but I think those who are in that situation, must communicate verbally, that is just on both side. Not surprisingly, this news also got released today I won't go into details of whether it is male, or female, because they can be equally vulnerable in the same setting.

“We began fooling around, she pushed me off, then we laid in the bed and talked and laughed some more. We took off our clothes. She said she didn’t want to have sex, so we laid together, and talked, and kissed, and laughed, and then we started having sex … and she started to cry.”

“I tried to comfort her. To make her feel better. I thought I was doing OK, I believed she was feeling better. She believed she was raped,” he said.

Life is already difficult as it is, and I think we can all do better and not to use it as a weapon. If someone wants to try, then give it a go. If don't like, say stop. I am sure the court system would really appreciate with lesser false accusing, just to attack the other side etc. That is also for those who really needed the help, by removing the unnecessary delay in the court system, and be able to access those support they truly need.

Each of those issues / problems in the society, often are not completely standalone. One thing then leads to another, and all of a sudden, it became something else. If we continue to make life "difficult" for others, it will always come back to you, one way or another. Wake up people! It is never the drug itself or anything that destabilise the society, it is extreme measures, and when people have no choice but to, things happen. When we have war, strict policies, curfews, if prolonged, can it ever be a good thing? I do not have an answer for this, but I would certainly be thinking twice or more, and to consider more avenues, so that it doesn't come to this.

PS: To lighten the message - how would you rate your sex life right now? From 0 - 10 (Best), how happy are you? If you are frustrated... why?